During my meditation time, the phrase “tooth and nail” came to me. I wondered why in my state of relaxation and calm, would a phrase that means “Engage in vigorous combat or make a strenuous effort, using all one's resources” would come to me? I didn’t have an immediate answer, so I pondered what it could possible mean and this is what I came up with.
Those of you who have been reading my newsletters know that I have been talking about transformation, transitions and other life changes. The thought of fighting tooth and nail for this, seems so tiring to me. However, the other option is to sit passively by, watching and waiting without putting in much effort. I do believe that fighting tooth and nail makes the most sense. So, what do we need to fight tooth and nail for?
- Resistance to changing and evolving
- Forgiveness of self and others
- Not loving yourself
- Sanity, peace and calmness
- Fill in the blank_____________________
When I was growing up, it wasn’t uncommon for there to be after school girl fights. Usually it was the girls deemed the prettiest and with the “good hair” or the new girl who were picked as targets. It was common practice for the aggressor to slather Vaseline on her face (to prevent nail scratches) as normally the face was the first target in girl fights. The fights usually involved biting (tooth) and scratching (finger nails). When I thought about this, I realized it was not so much the other person who was being attacked, but the attack was against the aggressor themselves. In their fighting the other girl, they were really fighting themselves, lashing out at their own fears, insecurities, low self-esteem and other issues.
When I think of what this visually looks like for me to fight tooth and nail, what I see is me facing a mirror, kicking, clawing. biting and pushing away at whatever shows up in me that is trying to prevent me from becoming all of who I am meant to be. This is confirmation that the battle is usually not towards outside forces, but things that are occurring within. The person you are fighting is looking right back at you in the mirror. Don’t let her down! Keep fighting!
LETTERS TO MY SISTERS...
THE POWER OF WRITING LETTERS...
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